| About SEX |
| Positions
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| The term sexual positions refers
to the different ways in which couples physically position themselves for sexual
intercourse. Theoretically there can be countless sexual positions, but in fact, most are
variations on about half a dozen basic positions. On the one hand, popular mythology
propagates the belief that the man-on-top position is the only normal and acceptable
coital position; on the other is the myth that not only are there scores of sexual
positions, but that no one may be deemed a competent lover until he or she has mastered
them all. The myth further suggests that the more physically challenging the position, the
greater the sexual satisfaction will be. None of these myths is true. No special
significance is attached to any particular position, and competence in lovemaking is
measured by fulfillment, not by the extent of one's sexual repertoire. The most common sexual positions are man-on-top, woman-on-top, side-by-side, and rear-entry. Some heterosexual couples and some gay men also practice anal intercourse. They may all be modified by performing them lying down, sitting, standing, kneeling, or any combination of these. Each couple's inventiveness and comfort level determines their choice of positions.
The man-on-top position somewhat limits the ways a man can use his hands to caress his partner, but the woman can use her hands freely to caress the man or stimulate her clitoris. It is a very good position for seeing each other and kissing during intercourse.
The woman-on-top position is less often recommended if the woman is trying to become pregnant because the man's semen naturally tends to run out of her vagina. Of course, women who prefer this position can simply change positions immediately after her partner has ejaculated. Moreover, this is a good position for the later months of pregnancy because it allows intercourse without the woman's growing belly getting in the way. For the same reason it is a good position for men with large stomachs.
Rear entry allows for deep penetration and vigorous pushing if the couple wants that. The man's hands are free to caress the woman and he can reach her clitoris easily. It is more difficult for the woman to caress the man in this position than in others because she has to reach behind her. The drawbacks of rear entry intercourse are that the penis entering from behind gives very little stimulation to the clitoris and some couples do not like the lack of face-to-face intimacy. Which sexual positions a couple uses depends on a variety of factors. Each partner's physical comfort with a position certainly influences its use, as might their inhibitions about experimenting with unfamiliar positions. Sometimes the capacity to prolong or hasten orgasmic response determines what position a couple may choose. In some cases, circumstances (e.g. amount of space or time available) dictate the position for intercourse. Some couples will use one position almost to the exclusion of all others, perhaps because they mutually find it to be the most satisfying. Other couples may regularly use several positions or experiment with positions but not regularly include them in their lovemaking. Whatever the choices made, couples may find that the position influences the emotional as well as the physical aspects of lovemaking. With the exception of coitus, sexual positions for gay and lesbian couples do not differ much from those of heterosexual couples. Gay men may engage in anal intercourse more often than heterosexual couples and gay women may be more likely to introduce sex toys into their lovemaking. However, the vast array of sexual positions that same or opposite sex couples may experience remains basically the same. |
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